A marvelous article Boiling down to the essentials has been the greatest gift by Czarina Aggabao Thelen shares how keeping things simple have increased her joy, delight and gratitude.
As musicians juggling multiple poles with spinning plates on them, we can often be blinded by our busyness and not see how to make life simple, even if we hanker for it. I felt compelled to share my own experience in the blog post’s comments.
So why should and how can musicians stuck with “First World” expectations keep things simple?
Keeping life simple means:
- Less worry about being on time.
- More opportunities to notice the things that make us smile.
- Less time wasted searching for things, or tidying up.
- More inner peace and better performance (teaching, performing, work in general).
- Less concern about what others think of us.
- More laughter, joy and respect.
- Less needless decisions to make.
What are some of the quickest steps you can take to enjoy these benefits?
- Add all your tasks as well as appointments to your central family calendar. Avoid booking sessions back to back but include a few minutes, an hour, or more, between appointments
- Remove clutter from your work space or living room, and turn at least one chair to face outside. Or better yet, find a space you can visit every day that is outside with a view of blue and green (grass, trees, water, sky)
- Do you really need 12 towels? For a couple, 4 will do nicely: one each in use whilst the other is in the wash. Avoid shoving things in closets, but keep them handy and quickly accessible
- Deliberately choose to focus on the matter at hand and disregard thoughts about unrelated things that distract from what you are doing. As a musician, the things that cross my mind as I am actively involved in the art of making music have included:
- Where shall we go for dinner after this session?
- When will I be able to schedule my car for servicing?
- Is my shirt tucked in or did it pull out?
- I need to lose more weight. Maybe I should not go out to eat after this session.
- Do William and Kate know how to cook for themselves?
- Choose to be you, do things in a manner that brings out the best from you (within any rules or boundaries set by your employer and society!), and ignore ALL feedback – especially anything negative. If looking trendy and ‘out there’ makes you confident, go ahead and dress your own way. If you are convinced that the way you look does not contribute to your self-esteem (which it always does, by the way), then don’t brush your hair and wear the same style or color of clothing each day.
- In the late 20th Century the Western World started fixating on Feelings. Our feelings (as opposed to instincts) are perhaps the most disruptive, damaging and unreliable foundation on which to build any lifestyle. Right now, you can begin to increase your joy and happiness by making everything a simple choice. Once you have a habit of responding to EVERY decision with one of these simple choices, your life contentment will improve dramatically:
- Yes or no,
- Do or don’t do,
- Be thankful or do not be thankful.
- Setup your life so that you need to make fewer decisions when you can be concentrating on something else. For example, I get up at 5:30 every weekday morning to compose. A couple of hours later when that session is complete I must get ready for the rest of the day, and now that I am active, pumped and working at full-throttle, I do not want to waste time or energy making ‘silly’ little decisions. The night before was when I decided what I am going to wear today (sometimes I even lay out the clothes – a common trick I was reminded about a couple of years ago by Michael Hyatt) as well as what I am going to have for breakfast. In my experience, making these decisions at the time of implementation wastes significant time and energy – they are ‘needless decisions’ that can be dealt with ahead of time, and doing so keeps life very simple.
Now it is your turn: I would love to hear from you.
Have you learned anything new today about keeping life simple?
What ideas do you find inspiring, or what do you already do to maintain a simple #LifeBalance? I’d love to hear about it. Leave a comment below and let me know.
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