You Don’t Have to Be So Serious to Be Taken Seriously
Classical music is serious business. Right? All those tiny notes, all that counting, all that Italian. Very serious stuff, indeed.
Many of us have spent years before teachers, adjudicators, and in competitions proving just how seriously we take our craft. We finally leave academia and discover that the rest of the world is just not that impressed with how seriously we take ourselves. They are, in fact, rather turned off by the whole stiff upper lip thing.
Why?
Because serious is BORING.

There’s a Reason It’s Called PLAYING Music
Hopefully, you began your life in music because it brought you joy, and not say, because you were forced into it by some terrifying schoolmarm who thought it would do you some good.
Learning to play well, being able to communicate real emotion through an instrument (voices included) is exhilarating! Expertly executing a tricky passage feels like flying down a rollercoaster at top speed and pulling into the station with your heart racing and your hands still in the air.
In other words, it’s fun.
And your audience should know it. They should see it, feel it, experience it right along with you because people like to see other people have fun. It’s how we spread joy. That joy that started this journey.
Cultivating Playfulness in Performance
There’s a misconception that playful equals sloppy. Not so. Playfulness is actually the masterclass.
We’ve all heard the expression, “Learn the rules so you can break them.” The equivalent here is, “Learn the music so you can enjoy it.” There is a difference between insisting on quality (which you should do) and taking it so seriously that executing a piece takes on an entirely different meaning.
Yes, some pieces are serious and deep. They call for a certain somber intensity. By all means, perform those pieces appropriately. But don’t include an entire program of that kind of music.
Make It a Game
Playfulness isn’t only an attractive characteristic for performance; it can also make the entire business of music more fun.
Turn choosing venues into a game.
Picture yourself playing in a particular space. Does it make you smile? Give you those little bubbles of joy? Book it.
On the other hand, if visualizing yourself on that stage makes you queasy or itchy, no matter what else it has in its favor, skip it. If you can’t even imagine yourself having fun, how on earth are you going to show your audience a good time?
Have a long list of business calls to make? Set a timer and see how many you can fit in before it beeps. Aim to break the record next time.
Joy is a Choice
Baring the few tragic events that inevitably occur in every life, each day, in each situation, you have the ability to choose happiness and joy. Playfulness is a way to get at that joy, and interestingly, it’s also what naturally happens when joy bubbles out of you.
Life is short. Look for ways to make it fun. You may be amazed by how many people will want to come along for that ride.
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